Literacy

When I started working with the non-profit world the first thing that jumped out at me was how many of the problems could be traced to unemployment.  Addiction, Haitians, returning troops from Afghanistan, abused women and children, Native American homeless kids the underlying issue would keep returning to unemployment.  

Housing and Employment Key to Beating Addiction for Blacks and Hispanics RWJF 1/10/2013

+Annette Bosworth and I ( Chad Haber ) tried many things to create jobs for Haitians, returning military personnel, Native Americans this had the desired effect.  The job helped erase lots of the back ground noise or static as I  will refer to it from now on.  Once the static was removed the next common problem that was revealed was a below average reading level.

Incarcerated juvenile defenders eighty percent read two reading grades below grade level or a functionally iliterate.

California and Arizona are two of the several states that use early literacy test scores to predict required prison growth.

The data on reading and how to fix it is readily available.  The fMRI made it so that if you treat reading as any other medical condition the problem can be diagnosed and with aide of a doctor working with the team of education specialist a plan can be put in place to treat the underlying disease state.  The fMRI made it so the brain could be watched as the patient read a simple paragraph.  The fMRI results were matched with reading problems.  The good thing was that once a certain reading problem was identified the fMRI didn't have to be given to the next patient that presented with the same symptoms, we just simply didn't have the resources to pay for fMRI for every patient.  The lack of resources in this case was a benefit we had to look for cheap ways to get the results we wanted.

The goal was to get reading scores to grade level as quickly and as cheaply as possible.  

Preventive Health Strategies used a simple six question reading test developed by SAMPSA to flag individuals that had issues with reading.  The next step was to have a specialist do a screening with them to see if they fell into the broad diagnosis of dyslexia.  The Dyslexia diagnosis is enough to trigger most insurance companies to pay for medical treatment.  To date we have had no insurance companies actually pay for any test, diagnosis or treatment of reading disabilities.  

Preventive Health Strategies has to date screened over 1750 South Dakotans for reading deficiencies.  Preventive Health Strategies  found that a large percentage of females could be brought to grade level in reading with simple treatments for malnourishment.  The malnourished female population is well studied nationally no new research was required.  The treatment was cheap and easy to give under the supervision of a doctor.  The treatment had an immediate effect on all cognitive functions including reading, math and improved self self-worth (diagnosis of depression).   

Preventive Health Strategies at the same time took patients that did not have malnourishment issues and using the current research applied what fMRI has have taught PHS about reading disabilities.  The Primary care doctor would develop a plan with a reading specialist and the patient to address the plan.  Preventive Health Strategies found that the for under $10000 and six months total per patient they could be brought up to grade level provided they had an IQ in the normal range.

The results were amazing!  Real household income improved immediately (get and maintain jobs), compliance with other prescribed medications improved (resulting in fewer ER visits) in almost every area the individual reported a better life immediately not in five or ten years.  

 Pulitzer prize winning author Jared Diamond  states that a productive member of society will contribute five million dollars to the economy in their life time while a non-productive institutionalized member will cost the same society around seven million dollars resulting in a twelve-million dollar difference per individual.

Preventive Health Strategies did not understand the risk we put our primary care providers in when we asked them to start screening for literacy.  The power of the bureaucrats was underestimated.  The bureaucrats have the power and ability to gain the system with no real accountability or downside while the citizens of South Dakota pay the price.  

The complex systems (school, prison, health care, legal, mental health, insurance company) are full of interdependencies (hard to detect) in South Dakota.  This interdependence makes it hard to detect the underlying problem, simple problems are misplaced resulting in runaway chain reaction of events.

Preventive Health Strategies has naively acted with the assumption that organizations with mission statement of saving the state money and protect the lives of South Dakotans actually had these goals.  This naivety has resulted in more than one of Preventive Health Strategies primary care providers being investigated by the State of South Dakota.   The State of South Dakota has been ranked as the second most corrupt place in America by Fox News.

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Denton Haber Eulogoy

After my Eulogy of my father( Denton Haber) Prescott Haber said, "Dad- you could have done better." A long pause ... then Walker Haber said "But because you were prepared ... you did good enough ." I laughed.

My Notes: DENTON’s EULOGY

Thank you – for coming. 

I am scheduled to go first. Today in attendance is my high school debate coach and my high school debate partner. They know there is a reason on the program I am scheduled first, then my sister, then my brother, and then the preacher . . . that is called CLEAN-UP.

I asked my favorite first cousin Dustin, “What is the first thing that comes to your mind when I say Denton Haber. “ His instant response was, “SHARP DRESSED MAN.” 
Dustin, my dad always dressed the same: Black Sweater with a collared shirt. Over a lunch conversation with my dad he taught me “Sometimes I’m over dressed and sometimes underdressed, Chad- but in this attire I am always acceptable.” Today I am a little under dressed, but I am wearing what my dad would wear.

WHO’S MY FAVORITE?: My kids’ response: “I am” 

THE TITLE OF MY for today is LUNCHES WITH MY DAD
MY dad took a personality test when he went to work as a salesman for Wendell Holcomb. DENTON was FIRST BORN whose personality was ENTJ - 
What is important to an ENTJ? 
1) See the problem, 
2) Make a plan 
3) Get others involved and act.

He had an amazing skill of taking complex issues and finding the silver bullet. “Here is what is really wrong. Here is the simple way to fix it. . . now go DO that with the help of others.” RESULTS matter to an ENTJ first-born. You do not get to make excuses as the son of an ENTJ first-born. He was known for very stimulating conversation. 
Others would see him as 
1) Intimidating 
2) Overly Assertive
3) No patience for people who make mistakes. 
Depending on your personality, you will see his behavior as self-sacrificing or COLD AND HEARTLESS for the exact same action. 

I am also first-born –and not an ENTJ. This week I have done my best to slow down and LOVE my dad. Love is a verb - How did I show my love? I walked through his steps and talked to his friends the people he loved.

LUNCH WITH MY DAD IN MY TEENS
NO BODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW UNTIL THEY KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE. 
I could hear those words over and over this week
-“He slowed down and learned my story.” 
– He gave me a job when nobody else would. 
-He was like a second father, 
-He was like a coach, brother, guide, mentor – all-time-favorite-person. 

A SECRET my dad taught me in my teenage years was the answer to “Do you know who my favorite person is?” He learned the answer through his first sales boss: Wendell Holcomb – “Don’t be worried about the next sale, or the next big deal, stay focused on the deal right in front of you.” “A bird in the hand is better than 2 in the bush.” 
DENTON’S TRANSLATION – The Favorite person is the one that is right in front of you. 

LUNCH CONVERSATION – in my TEENS- My friend Jason ( who spent this week with me) recalls a conversation between my dad and I when we were teenagers. 
I asked my dad, “Why is your car always on empty? Why don’t you fill the tank all the way up? It costs just as much to keep your car on FULL as it does to keep your car on EMPTY.” 
“Chad – You must be able to fill the car to full for the FIRST TIME. “ This statement did not make sense to me or my friend, Jason. My dad slowed down and un –pack this messy parable for me. “I don’t have enough cash-flow to buy eggs, bread and a full tank of gas. A full tank of gas KILLS the cash flow. A little bit of gas + eggs + milk + bread means we get to try again tomorrow.” 

That conversation happened with Jason as our witness 25 years ago. Jason (and many others that watched these conversations, would point out the intensity in the conversation. Jason’s viewpoint painting me as defiant and antagonistic RINGS in his recounting of that conversation. NEITHER my dad nor I felt that defiance. We both felt the drive to understand one another. It was just a FIRST BORN TALKING TO A FIRST BORN . . . STEEL SHARPENING STEEL. 

LUNCH CONVERSATIONS IN MY TEENS: THE MOST IMPORTANT DECISION OF YOUR LIFE IS WHO YOU CHOOSE TO MARRY. Make sure it is somebody you want to be more like. As the years pass, you will gravitate to being more like her and she will gravitate toward being more like you. College is the best selection you will ever have. Stay in college until you find the one you want. Once you find her…. STOP looking. 




LUNCH CONVERSATION in my 20S: Lesson on being a FIRST BORN. The parent and the child can learn lessons out of order. Sometimes the CHILD learns the lesson before the parent. 

One of my dad’s gifts to me was during these conversations – Dad would say, “I was wrong. You were right. Let’s do it your way.” I wish I had a dollar for every time someone has told me since that conversation, “I have never had anyone else admit to being wrong. Tell me I was right, and then start doing it my way.” Thanks for teaching me that lesson, Dad. 

SECRET about what HAPPENED AT LUNCHES: To outside observers, if we had a LIFE-PROBLEM and met for lunch, the game would change dramatically from before the lunch to after the lunch. Any of the other players would say, “What happened at lunch? That was not our plan when you left for lunch.” We took a problem that we disagreed upon to lunch. During that lunch the conversation would be very heated and very intense. ‘WHAT ARE YOU THINKING” - The other man was expected to break it down. We would get out a napkin. We would draw out an action plan. The plan would be set . . . .

The next day’s lunch might be the same problem because ‘THAT PLAN DIDN’T WORK.” 
Sometimes the child learns the lesson before the dad. 
Sometimes the dad and the child learned the lesson at the same time, sometimes the Dad taught the child. 

NAPKIN LUNCH IN MY 20S – DREW A PYRAMID 
One lunch in my 20s, my dad gets out his napkin and draws a pyramid. He says something about Maslows’ Hiarchy of Needs . “You see this pyramid is wider at the bottom. You see that it is narrow at the top. Do you want to know how I got enough cash flow to fill up the tank of gas all the way? When you are fighting for food, clothing and shelter you have great competition. Everyone is fighting for that . The competition is fierce. I just advertised for a $10/hour position and we had 50 people apply. I just advertised for a position that will pay $100K . . . and NO ONE applied” There is less competition at the top of the pyramid – focus there.

LUNCH ABOUT EMPLOYMENT – 
My dad was pushing me with this question, “Why do you feel the need to employ the whole world?” My answer, “People will work much harder for a boss than they would ever work for themselves. If they do their jobs, and do what they say they can do, they will pay for themselves. “ Fifteen years later, these words had become a mission for him. He did want to give everyone a job. He had seen that people would work much harder for HIM than they would for themselves. As long as he had reasonable expectations, it did not cost him anything. They would pay for themselves. 

LUNCH ON MISTAKES – Don’t ever make the same mistake twice. You don’t have to make the same mistakes I made . . . we are the same . . . it is like making the same mistake twice. STEEL SHARPENING STEEL. FIRST BORN TO FIRST BORN. 

LUNCH IN MY 20S You don’t have 20 years experience. During one of our lunches he was pounding home the “don’t make the same mistakes twice” story. He recounted the issues with a co-worker that was making repeat stupid mistakes – over and over and over. When he confronted the co-worker “This is the way it has been done for 20 years. I have worked here for 20 years.” He replied, “You do not have the experience of 20 years - - - you simply have the experience of the first day on the job. It is same day over and over again for 20 years.”
Don’t make the same mistakes twice, Chad. 

LUNCH IN MY 20S- Your Friends: You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. 

How this applies to me living in an RV, I am not sure. All of my friends make way more than nothing. 

It took me into my 30s to figure this one out. I thought he was just talking about money. 
You are the average of how your friends treat their wives. 
You are the average of how your friends treat their kids. 
You are the average of how your friends spend their time. 
You are the average of how much beer they drink. 


LUNCH IN MY 30S- DON’T LET PERFECT GET IN THE WAY OF GOOD ENOUGH

LUNCH IN MY 30S—THE BUCKET LIST 
My church was running a series on the movie ‘The Bucket List’ a couple of years after it was in theaters. I stayed up all night writing my bucket list. I walked over to Dad’s house and shared my bucket list with the whole family. I offered to pay for anyone willing to do something on my list with me.
No one wanted to do my Bucket List with me. Not one single item on my Bucket List with me. - - EVEN WHEN I offered to pay – NO ONE. 

NO BODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW UNTIL THEN KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE. 







The next day at lunch
He told me “your mom and I went to that movie in the theater a couple of years ago.” After that movie, we both sat down and EACH wrote out our bucket list. My mother had just hit a big milestone in her recovery from cancer. He was really looking at his future and could see his life was finite – not the immortal self-image of the FIRST BORN ENTJ. My mom read her list first. 

He said, “I looked at my list and not ONE THING did we overlap on. “ He tore up his list and said . . . LET’S DO YOURS. 
This was a PIVITAL LUNCH CONVERSATION in my life. - If you were present before that lunch and then after that lunch –my life turned on a dime. If you missed the lunch, you were jarred by how much my behavior changed from that point forward. It did not make sense if you missed that conversation. 

NO BODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW UNTIL THEY KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE.

I asked my Dad - what was on your bucket list: His answer I WANT TO HAVE A BUSINESS WITH MY SONS

I painted a house with my father-in-law and asked what is on your bucket list: I want to do for my kids what my Dad did for me. 

I asked my mother-in – law what is on your bucket list: I want to go on a hot air balloon ride? 

I asked my wife what is on your bucket list: I learned that we didn’t overlap on one single item. 

I started with people I cared about and worked down their bucket lists. While doing their bucket lists, I have gotten to do all of my bucket list and have a much fuller life. I have done everything on my bucket list. 

Until they know you care – they will question your motivations. 
Until YOU know you care, they won’t tell you their TRUE story. If you do not know their story, you do not care. 










SOMETIMES THE SON AND THE PARENT LEARN THE LESSON AT THE SAME TIME.
DON’T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE TWICE. 

DENTON’S TRANSLATION – the most important person is the one that is right in front of you. 

CHAD’S TRANSLATION: Learn how they want to be loved. 
John - Dad learned that you want to be loved by sharing the burden of responsibilities. He did this by helping you take the dock in and out, doing the work together. He knew that if he told you he was going to be somewhere, he NEEDED to be there. A broken commitment was a sin to you. 
Heidi - Dad learned that you felt loved when he spent time with your kids. He knew when he gave your children undivided attention –free from distractions, you felt loved. 
Mom, yours was the most complicated of all. When there was something that he knew you wanted – no matter what- Dad knew that the more he personally had to sacrifice to attain that for you – the more out-of-reach it was – by attaining that prize, you felt loved. When he gave you that gift, he showed you that you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to give you that gift. 
ME – he showed me he loved me by going to lunch with me. 
YOU WERE MY FAVORITE DAD. 
WHO’s MY FAVORITE? Kids: I AM. 

TOO STRONG AT LUNCH – When neither side would give, we would bring someone else to lunch to act as the judge. The witness. Third party. This poor person . . . “Join us for lunch.” When they accepted the invitation, they often did not know how much was about to be revealed about FIRST BORN TO FIRST BORN conversations. 

The typical response after the lunch: “I am exhausted” “Do you guys hate each other? That was so intense You do that on PURPOSE.”

We would booth look at each other with a refreshed, revived and renewed feeling – we were back to being on the same page - . . . and CLUELESS to the exhaustion of the witness. STEEL SHARPENING STEEL. FIRST BORN TO FIRST BORN. 
There were no sides – How could anyone ever see that we weren’t on the same side?

LAPSES IN JUDGEMENT: THIS WEEK I was able to observe that he did get better as he grew older. He didn’t make the same mistakes twice. The words people used to describe him as a young man: SO intimidating, fierce, controlling, confrontational, brusque, critical
As he softened with age, the different version of him surfaced: He was refreshingly honest. He was straightforward with our relationship. When he and I would talk, it felt as if no one else existed in the world. Many comments like this were said. 
The obvious lapses in judgments from people that only knew him as a younger man, the man that I had lunch with on Monday would not be capable of contemplating, let alone carrying out. 
Lapses in judgment as a younger man: Filling a purse full of manure. 
Getting a pick up high centered on a pile of manure. Buying a farm without telling his wife. 
The story of the man in his 20s taking his young wife (also in her 20s) picking a card off the shelf, “Honey this is the card I would have bought you.” She read it, and he had her put it back on the shelf. I know he did this because he did not have enough money for lunch and the card. The man I had lunch with on Monday would have skipped lunch so that he would have had enough money to buy the card. I know he was looking at the cash –flow equation trying to get to a FULL THE TANK OF GAS. 
He got much better at slowing down – and really focusing on the person in front of him. 

LAST LUNCH WITH DAD ON MONDAY -THE DAY HE DIED: 
For our lunch on Monday – he asked for the lunch. He named the place. He named the time. . . . . and he was 45 minute late. By now, he knows that I will wait for him. He knew I would wait all day to have lunch with him and that I would not keep score. The only reason I know he was 45 minutes late is because he pointed it out. He was not disrespecting me, or did not forget, . . he was just focused on the one in front of him – I knew that and waited. 

When you have lunch as many times as we have had lunch - - the topics get repeated. 

From the beginning of this lunch IT WAS COMPLETELY different. It was new ground. For the last120 days, he had fixated on the fact that I was living in an RV with my 3 sons and wife. 

At the hearing on November 28th – where they focused on my wife’s personality type, he started read everything he could get his hands on about her case. He had obviously slowed down and looked at the things Annette was doing. In addition, he also slowed down and looked at the things I was doing with Preventive Health Strategies. 

This pushed him to look at his own personality test from when he worked for Wendell Holcomb– “She has the same personality traits as me. – They are attacking her for being like ME. This could have happened to me.”

Since that revelation in November, he has been my voice. 




He got it . . . but I was failing him. Since his revelation, we would have lunch and he would give me the rundown on what he had done since our last lunch, and who he has called. 

I would tell him, “I love you, Dad. Thank you Dad.” Not expecting his voice to do anything. He would get SO ANGRY at me. 

He saw me as FATALISTIC by living in the RV. Living in the RV was the ultimate symbol to him that I had given up. He saw me wilting. 

He told me – “Chad you need to SHUT UP – you can’t be her voice. Let me be her voice.” He was caring about what I cared about. In my whole life, he had never told me to shut up. 

On Monday – from the start- OUR FINAL LUNCH was completely different. 

This lunch was completely 

OUT OF BOOK – in Chess Tournaments, players record their moves. If you are studying chess, you study the moves. The log of these moves is called the BOOK. If you play chess on line, the computer will tell you how many billions of people have made this move. As your moves become more advanced, the number of people who have played that move drops. When you have mastered the game, you might be lucky enough to be the VERY FIRST PERSON to make a move. This move is called OUT OF BOOK. 

From the very first words out of his mouth, this lunch was OUT OF BOOK. 
“The things the 2 of you are doing ARE AMAZING – I finally get why you are willing to live in an RV. The lesson that I taught you about HOLDING NOTHING BACK – you did not make the same mistake I did. “

“What has happened to you is UNFAIR – UNJUST – I don’t know how to counsel you. So can you please sit here until we come up with a plan that you and I can agree might work?”
I was hopeless. I was wilted. I told him I was out of ideas. He cried. I cried. 
He said, “It needs to be YOUR PLAN – not your wife’s plan. “
ME: “Why dad? – We are ONE.” 
DAD: “I know that Chad – but to the rest of the world, it does not make sense.”

I told him my idea and he built upon it until it became our dream




HE SAID – “Go – Don’t get a return ticket. Stay there until you have enough momentum and your absence won’t be missed. I wish I had more to give. This is all I have today. I VERY MUCH WANT IT TO BE KNOWN THAT I WAS A PART OF THIS. IN 20 year, I want to look back and know that I got to be a part of what you are doing and I believed in you. It was our dream I will visit you this time in HAITI. I very much want to be a part of this. “ 

So for the very first time in MY life – he wrote a check TO SOMETHING I CARED ABOUT and said, “See you in HAITI.” 

When I told my uncle Doug what my dad had done, he got a notecard and said something to the effect of:

“FOR DENTON HABER’S SCHOOL FOR CHILDREN WHO DON’T READ GOOD.” 

We both laughed and I taped it on one of my Grandma’s (their mom) water pitchers. He then took 5 one hundred dollar bills out of his pocket and put it into that pitcher. The last time I saw the jar, another twenty dollar bill had joined the pitcher. If you find that water pitcher, please put it on the counter on BOB’s CARRY OUT AND DELIVERY. 

I had the best dad ever. 

He was MY favorite.

Bob's Carry Out and Delivery 

Bad at Names

I am really bad at names.  Everybody says they are bad at names but I really am.  Yesterday I was told that a little girl died in an orphanage Annette and I have helped in the past.  I spent a considerable effort trying to get straight which orphanage was being described.

Finally I said the one where my son played and laughed with the kids in the rain and I slept on the floor?  Instantly my sons face and this other wet face popped into my mind.

The moment is crystal clear in my memory of these wet happy faces gathering buckets of rain water.  The laughter and the joy that filled the air that night will live with me forever.

This morning I asked for a picture of the little girl that had died of typhoid.  The picture shocked me to my core.  The face is the same face that I envisioned.  This one really hurt.

I'm sorry I didn't ask your name then.  I'm sorry that even if I had I would not have remembered your name today.  I will remember your laughter and the joy you brought to my ten year old son forever.


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Post Traumatic Growth

Get-n-go Sioux Falls

Lisa does a fantastic job of Keeping the laundromat at 14th and Minnesota Safe and clean. Lisa's smile and warm heartfelt good morning it's always refreshing. Especially on a morning like this morning when it is snowy and icy. Get-n-Go Sioux Falls


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Protecting the unborn

I'm looking for some feedback for a postcards. Using this picture. 

Last year Preventive Health Strategies helped single moms in every county in SD. PHS uses hand held ultra sounds. The impact this has on the mom is immediate. Once a mom sees her baby sucking on its thumb her life is for ever changed. PHS thanks you for the 453 uninsured single moms from South Dakota that you helped in 2012.

+Annette Bosworth, MD using vscan

Description: Phs has given 453 mothers a first impression they will never forget. It is thanks to Phs and dr. Bosworth that these babies are alive and giving their mothers a new impression every day.

I need feedback!!!

How do I add the fact that women are at risk so long term birth control should be mandated. 

homeless and parenting

12/10/2012


We just got done having a long talk with our boys. Walker Haber I don't like it when people feel "sorry" for me. Me "Why would they feel sorry for you?' W "Because we are homeless." Me "Do you think we are sad?" W "Sometimes?" Me "How do you think we move through that? We focus on the one beautiful thing that is or has happened in the day. Then we go forward being honest, open and willing." W "Isn't that why we are homeless?" I punted fed them CAKE! F...! Parenting is hard! 

+Annette Bosworth, MD +Walker Haber +prescott haber in the RV

I have started thinking of this as Post Traumatic Growth  



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Listen God

My prayer this morning,

"Listen God. You and I both know that we ( +Annette Bosworth, MD ) are doing our best. 

You can see we are putting everything we have into this.

If you want us to do better you got to show up and do your part of the deal. 

The "Hell with it" you know we are not capable of doing anything less than our best because that's our job. 

Just give us a high five on our way through the pearly gates and say, "The two of you did an awesome job!"

+Annette Bosworth, MD +Walker Haber after orchestra

I think that if we are allowed just a little bit of time to heal we will grow from all that has happened to us Post Traumatic Growth.  The issue is that we are not given that time everyday the attacks come from the same man.  This is called "economic terrorism" - attacking constantly so that there is no way to defend - historicaly the preferred weapon of corrupt governments.








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Prevenient Grace

I have not heard this term since I went through my confirmation class. I was confirmed United Methodist around 1982.

Prevenient Grace, "There is nothing this man can do to save himself. Outside help is his only hope." John Wesley founder of the Methodist Church.

I need to reread John Wesley's "Appeals to man of reason and religion." I think I would take more from it than I did when I was twelve.

Water Project Success

Water restore to a shit load if people.

That's a meaningful mission trip.

Preventive Health Strategies

11/26/2912

Working with local community leaders in Haiti to make sure water is restored to 70,000 people Meaningful missions believes in direct support. Meaningful Missions finds the individuals in a community then makes sure they have what they need.

This community needed water. Meaningful missions talked to community leaders to find out what their water solutions were. The plans were well thought out and obvious. This was an obvious preventive health strategy, meaningful missions had the ability to help and we did.

The Preventive Health Strategies used only Haitians to do this project. The only support given was direct financial support and accountability. Training Meaningful missions local leaders to always follow up and make sure the work is completed and that nothing else is needed.

Eighteen local leaders showed up to "meaningful medicine" accountable.

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Preventive Health Strategies
1) See the need
2) show compassion, observe, learn,
3) If possible meet the need.

The mayor explained to me "help tomorrow just means you are not going to help my people today!"

Water was restored to this community.

Traffic jams

I have experienced traffic jams on this trip to Haiti.

Reasons for the traffics jams. If you have worked in Haiti or any other third world country you have experienced the rounding that happens in translating.

Think of the game telephone now it goes down a long line of people gets to your translator who tries to explain the situation to you.

Transportation taxi jams:
1)Accident: I understand this one
2)Bridge out: happens in America too
- this added an hour to our commute both directions everyday
3)The bridge is out and somebody has blocked the detour bridge on purpose.
4)Heavy commute traffic: rush hour happens in America too
5)Vehicle stuck in a pot hole and needs to be pushed out.
6)Police stopping every vehicle
7)One lane road and heavy traffic from other direction
8)Funeral procession
9)Communication Errors with driver
- end up at the right business wrong location
- driver doesn't arrive on time.
- because he runs into one or all of the issues listed above
-missed church yesterday because driver got to us two hours late
10) livestock crossing the road
11) Market Day- Some communities the market is right next to the only road going through town. This can bring traffic to a dead stop.
12) Americans- trying to help. Guaranteed will stop traffic
13) celebrations - same thing happens in America, Macy's thanksgiving day parade. Feels random as an American though.
14) Being lost
15) Donkey loaded down with things for market won't move.

Bedtime stories from 2000 miles away

I have seen this feature advertised for months.  I honestly had no desire to try it.  I took my three young boys to Haiti.  My wife had to stay home.  My boys are well traveled.  I didn't think much about the trip.  My six year old started complaining about missing mom.

I tried Google Hang Out, I'm in Haiti.  Odd we have internet for free but no cell coverage($3/min) equals no cell coverage.

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I sent her a Facebook message to try Google Hangout.  The whole process took a few minutes to get it to work the first time.  This was a great experience, the next night the fun of playing with the funny hats and sounds was done and Annette got to make her normal funny sounds.  The boys loved it (including me).

Push Back

Ralph Waldo Emerson described this truth of human nature accurately:
Men succeed when they realize that their failures are the preparation for their victories.

POINT #1: YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES AREN’T YOU

POINT #2: YOU CAN’T CONTROL WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU, ONLY YOUR REACTIONS

POINT #3: WHEN YOU STOP BLAMING, YOU TAKE BACK YOUR POWER


Today when I look at the kids in Haiti. I have more hope for them than I do my own kids.
The statement that has stuck with me about Annette's ordeal is "shocking to one's sense of fairness."

The Haitian kids don't expect things to be fair. But, they do expect to be able to have a rational and reasonable conversation.

They don't expect to be treated fairly by the government. The expectation by Haitians is that if you are noticed by an official (doing above average) your lively hoods, business, kids and land will be taken by the government.

When I am able to take a step back and look at the situation from Haiti. The most likely direction for the Haitian kids is up. My kids the next leg will likely be even further down.

Drop off

The little kids in the back of the tap-tap are being dropped off at a Haitian orphanage.

The whole experience brings back memories of taking livestock to market in the back of a pickup with my grandpa when I was a kid. The only difference being that at least some paperwork was done on the livestock(a check if nothing else).

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Cleaning up the Garabage

Preventive Health Strategies

This garbage pile has been her since 2008. Every time we drive by it Annette gets pissed "Why? Hasn't anybody cleaned that up?"

God works in amazing ways. This week I met the mayor of the community with the garbage pile.

Thanks to the many supporters on this trip the mayor is personally overseeing the cleaning up of this garbage pile today. On a Sunday!

Let me make that clear "today!"

New mayor!

God put us in the right place at the right time!

I wonder how many times the previous mayor was given the resources to do this job.

Happy birthday Annette!  It is because of you that this garbage is being cleaned up today.

Getting this garbage cleaned up is going to prevent lots of health problems both long term and today.

This is meaningful. Thank you to everybody that supports

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God is good!

Michael St-Vilien

I'm sitting next to Michael in the back of a Haitian Tap-Tap (painted pickup/Haitian primary form of transportation) as I write this.

Michael Does an excellent job of negotiating for the organizations we work with in Haiti.

We have used Michael as a negotiator in government negotiations.

We have used Michael to calm an angry mob.

We have used Michael to calm angry clergy.

We have used Michael in negotiating supplies from Haitians and other organizations that have what we are lacking. We have had times that the thing we need is not available for sale in Haiti.

Michael is very well connected and was able to help us get what was needed. Michael has done this type of negotiating for us on things like fans, medicines, medical care. For those who have not operated in a third world country. I can not express the importance of this skill set. We have used other interpreters. The difference is like driving a 1982 Chevy Pinto and a brand new Ferrari they both do the same thing. But? How do you describe the difference to somebody that has never driven.

Michael understands the nuances if the English language this has come in most handy when we have been in danger and did not know it.

Personally the scariest place i have ever been in Haiti. It was after dark and the place that I had arranged to stay with my kids changed their mind.

Michael was not with us. Michael dropped everything and helped us to find a safe place to stay on a moments notice.

Michael is well connected in the Haitian community. Michael has helped us scale up quickly for events. Michael has with little notice get us 25 good English interpreters for a medical team.

Michael is always willing to do what is needed.

Michael's phone number 5093837508

Michael St-Vilien

Michael Does an excellent job of negotiating for the organizations we work with in Haiti.

We have used Michael as a negotiator in government negotiations.

We have used Michael to calm an angry mob.

We have used Michael in negotiating supplies from Haitians and other organizations that have what we are lacking. We have had times that the thing we need is not available for sale in Haiti.

Michael is very well connected and was able to help us get what was needed. Michael has done this type of negotiating for us on things like fans, medicines, medical care. For those who have not operated in a third world country. I can not express the importance of this skill set. We have used other interpreters. The difference is like driving a 1982 Chevy Pinto and a brand new Ferrari they both do the same thing. But? How do you describe the difference to somebody that has never driven.

Michael understands the nuances if the English language this has come in most handy when we have been in danger and did not know it.

Personally the scariest place i have ever been in Haiti. It was after dark and the place that I had arranged to stay with my kids changed their mind.

Michael was not with us. Michael dropped everything and helped us to find a safe place to stay on a moments notice.

Michael is well connected in the Haitian community. Michael has helped us scale up quickly for events. Michael has with little notice get us 25 good English interpreters for a medical team.

Michael is always willing to do what is needed.

Michael's phone number 5093837508

Inspirational YOUTUBE videos

I am stuck in a traffic jam in Haiti.  I have been thinking about youtube videos that inspire me.

1)  Hans Rosling: Stats that reshape your world-view

2)  Derek Sivers: How to start a movement

3)  Simon Sinek: Start with Why

4)  How to live before you die - Steve Job explains

5)  Barry Schwartz: The paradox of choice

6)  Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture: Achieving Your Childhood Dreams

7) 1989

8)  Cure for Alcoholism

9) One Red Paper Clip

10)Abundance 

Tap-Tap is moving!!

This is a Haitian "Tap-Tap"